UNFILTERED- my story begins

One girl. One city. One chaotic journey

Hey there,

I’m Abirami, and this is officially my first blog post — and before you roll your eyes thinking this is just another college girl’s diary full of drama and hostel complaints… well, okay yeah, there’s gonna be some of that šŸ˜…

But also? A lot more.

I’m currently a second-year undergraduate student living in Chennai. But this city? It’s not where I grew up. I landed here like a confused little puppy — completely out of my comfort zone, new language, new faces, new everything.

šŸŒ Life outside my comfort zone

I’ll be honest — I had no idea how hard it would hit.
I thought moving to a new city would be exciting. Freedom, right? New start, big dreams, hostel fun, etc.
But in reality?

It was:

  • Me standing in the middle of a new campus not understanding a single word people were saying.

  • Me eating food I wasn’t used to and crying because I missed home-cooked meals.

  • Me calling my mom at 2am just to hear a familiar voice after a bad day.

Suddenly, I wasn’t that confident, talkative girl anymore. I was awkward. Quiet. Always overthinking.

šŸ  Hostel life — not as cute as movies show

Hostel life is… something else. You’re surrounded by people but sometimes feel so alone.
Some nights are full of gossip, Maggi, and loud laughter.
Other nights are just you, curled under a blanket wondering why everything feels so heavy.

Washing your own clothes, managing your expenses, pretending to understand inside jokes in a language you barely speak — all of that takes energy. And courage. And a LOT of patience.

But slowly… you adjust.
You stop being the awkward outsider.
You find “your” people.
And you start building your little safe space in a city that once felt too big.

✨ Why I’m really writing this blog

I wish someone had told me it was okay to cry during the first week.
That it was okay to not understand everything.
That I didn’t have to be perfect to be accepted.

That’s why I’m here. Writing. Sharing.

Because I know there are girls like me — students who’ve left their homes, who are struggling to find their place in a new city or campus, and who are silently wondering, “Is it just me?”

No, babe. It’s not just you.

This blog is going to be full of:

  • Tips to survive in a new city without feeling completely lost

  • Little hostel hacks and real talk about making friends, managing homesickness, and adjusting

  • My story — the funny parts, the sad ones, the cringey mistakes, and the mini-victories

And no, this won’t be some fake motivational blog. This is real. This is messy. But it’s mine.
And maybe, if you’re reading this and going through something similar, it’ll help you too.

šŸ’¬ So who is this blog for?

  • For the freshers trying not to cry during dinner

  • For the girl scared to walk into a group conversation

  • For the ones who miss their mom's rasam and their room back home

  • For you, if you’re figuring things out one disaster at a time

If that’s you — stay.
Because every week (or whenever I get time between lectures and mental breakdowns šŸ˜…), I’ll be posting real stuff. No filters, no fake positivity. Just me and my survival story.

Let’s cry, grow, and glow together šŸŒ±

— Abirami (your new hostel bestie who gets it)



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